The Four Agreements

I was reminded today of the book The Four Agreements. I LOVE THIS BOOK. I forgot how much I love it. I use to have these four paragraphs up on my wall....I would read them whenever I felt myself 'rise' to defend or explain and it would deflate my need.

I was also reminded that I am a writer, so words mean a lot to me. Your words. My words. I am trying to hang on to the honor of my words, to acknowledge when I don't get it right, when I want to get it 'righter' than I am.

So..without further ado....for you and me....here is the crux of the Four Agreements...and I say them outloud to myself as I write them, knowing and believing that oneday they will just 'be' in the core of my being.

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1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

3. Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

4. Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

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